Imagine dreading going to work every morning because your bully sits at a desk on the other
side of the door. The stress and agony produced from workplace bullying is a reality to over 36
million American workers each day according to a survey conducted by the Workplace Bullying
Institute (WBI). Positioned for Power: The Working Women’s Guide explores my journey of
overcoming workplace bully. It is important to recognize the tactics of the adversary and
counteract them by using the Word of God.
In the book, "Positioned for Power: The Working Woman's Guide," you will discover
•How to uncover your strengths
•Overcoming your weaknesses
•How to gain godly virtues
•Strategies to identify strongholds
•Power of prayer and praise
•Developing a consistent prayer life
Upon reading this resource, you will understand how to terminate the assignment of bullying
with prayer, reflection, and self-love.
In our careers or professions, many of us already have a regimen that helps us stay on top of our game. The same applies to our spirits and relationships with Christ. Part of our daily routine should include self-examination, purification and communication, which I will cover in another chapter. The purification process enables us to drill down to the very essence of our spirits. Thus, we are in a position to receive the instructions and directions we need to be winners. It is hard to hear from Christ when our minds are cluttered with unproductive and negative thoughts.
Purification of our spirits empowers us to move with agility to be effective in anything we do. So we must lay aside the weights that can overwhelm us and slow us down.
Hebrews 12:1 states: “Wherefore seeing we also are compassed with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is before us.” Hebrews Chapter 11 gives an impressive account of the resilient men and women who were successful as believers in God (Hebrews 11:1-39).
As our forerunners in the faith, many did not have the benefits of the guiding indwelling of the Holy Spirit to lead them, but followed the voice of God. They witnessed the manifestation of God in the earth through numerous miracles. Abraham, Noah, Moses, and Rehab, faced ridiculous odds, but because of their faith, God worked miracles through them.
We can draw on their experiences to learn how they maintained their faith in spite of the horrendous obstacles. Many were faced with death, but because of their faith achieved unprecedented feats. As New Testament believers, our adversity can be overcome, too. It is inexcusable for us to fail with so many rich examples. God performed awesome works through people that believed in Him. He wants to do the same through us, but we must not allow hindrances to slow us down.
It is hard to run carrying a ton of baggage. The weights in our spiritual lives can include criticism from peers and/or family. Allowing these thoughts to take root and grow within your spirit will taint and eventually alter the way we see ourselves. We must detox our spirits using the Word of God, which brings revitalization.
I will describe for you the common weights of criticism and depression so that you can recognize them when they attempt to overtake your mindset. In addition, I will provide a technique to pull down weights that have become “strongholds” in your mind.
Criticism – Condemning Words from Others
Condemnation is another word for criticism. Often we are so busy seeking the approval of our peers, clients, and family that we internalize their negative remarks. We try to shake them off and keep moving, but deep inside we begin to question ourselves. Soon, we accept the condemning words spoken over our spirits and incorporate those thoughts into our mindsets.
As a result, the negative words have become condemnation, and it attaches itself to our spirits. The reality is that as Christians we are no longer condemned by God, so how can we allow the words of a mere person to condemn us? Romans 8:1 states: “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the spirit.” We can never allow anyone but the Lord Jesus to define us.
Once we know who we are in Christ, the simple words of negative people can no longer impact our spirits. They are simply words from the bile-filled hearts of people living without the love of God. Their words reflect their spirits and are not a credible critique of us.
Jesus stated in Luke 6:45: “A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.”
In the past, I allowed the negative words of people to impact me because I wanted their approval. Back then, I thought if a negative word was spoken, then it must be true. Well, that was a lie from the pit of hell. Satan uses people to speak hurtful things to you. It is his attempt to project that ungodly image upon your spirit.
Once I had a real understanding of the person that Christ created me to be, those words rolled off me like water hitting a wet suit. As Christians, we are defined by the Word of God, which gives life, power, and peace. II Timothy 1:7 states: “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love and of a sound mind.” The Word of God stabilizes our spirits and minds so that we are balanced and well-rounded individuals.
 Founding Father of the Nation of Israel. Conceived a son, Isaac, with his wife Sarah who were both over 90 years old. Followed the voice of God to establish a new nation. Genesis 12:1-4 KJV.
 Warned by God of the destruction of earth by the flood and built the Arch. Genesis 6:13-27 KJV
 Leader God used to bring Nation of Israel out of slavery in Egypt. God performed miracles through him such as the 10 plagues and parting the Red Sea. Exodus 14:13-29
 Harlot that hid the spies from Israel in her house. She lived on the great wall of that surrounded the City of Jericho. Joshua 2:22 and Joshua 6:22-25 KJV.
Instant Prayer – Tool to Pull Down Strongholds
Instantaneous prayer is a weapon that many Christians under-utilize. It is optimal for busy women in the marketplace because we do not have time to take a break, find a closet, and send up our prayer to heaven.
The fast pace of the business world mandates quick response, so being instant in prayer is an effective tool to overcome any obstacle Satan throws in our paths. In this case, instant prayer is merely to ask Christ, in His name, to move on our behalf. I must caution you not to ask out of vengeance, but make a clear request in compliance with the Word of God (Romans 12:17-19). Meaning, we are to send positive thoughts to individuals who undermine us. As believers, we have higher standard of integrity.
For example, I was working on a project that was supported by some influential organizations and individuals in the business community. The multi-million dollar project was going to use the investment dollars of a major municipality’s pension fund. Upon my initial review the project seemed routine, but the proposed use was not in line with legal land-use policy.
On the other hand, the residents in the area were highly engaged and aware that the proposed development was not in compliance with the land-use ordinance. After two community meetings, dozens of meetings with the development team and community representatives, I had to stand by my recommendation for denial of the project. I recognized there was a greater force at work and was professional with both the community and the developers. I maintained my integrity by not getting involved personally or showing partiality to anyone.
I will never forget one meeting in which another member of our staff stepped out of the room, and I was left alone with the developer’s team of representatives. The demeanor of the lead team member changed from smooth and laid back to serious and domineering. I did not over-react or become emotional, but realized that the spirit of the individual had changed. I was challenged on every point of my recommendation and at one moment personally attacked. I quietly prayed within my spirit, and God helped me stand my ground based on the merits of my research and work.
I swallowed the lump in my throat when the demeanor of the individuals turned from friendly to stern. I felt outnumbered initially, but I was confident in God and myself. I was not a rookie in the field, and I knew a lot was on the line for both sides. Again, I had the element of surprise on my side, because I appeared weak, but had the strength of God within me.
Once the other member of the staff returned, the atmosphere of the room changed again, and the individual returned to being laid-back. I was able to make a joke and say, “Yes, while you were gone they tried to strong-arm me, but it didn’t work.”
We all laughed, but I knew that the individual was very serious. I was able to identify the shift in the attitude and resist the spirit of intimidation. I ask the Lord, “Strengthen me in this meeting, and I rebuke the spirit of intimidation and doubt.” 1 John 5:14-15 states: “And this is the confidence that we have in him that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us: And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.”
On the other hand, an instant prayer that would be considered an offensive strategy, in which you are striking out first before Satan can attack, would be as follows:
“In the name of Jesus, show the hand of the enemy and expose any plot or trap set up against me. I take authority over Satan and his devices right now and put him under my subjection.” This is a prayer that proved effective as I worked on projects with underhanded individuals, who wanted to work outside of the regulations and codes required by the local law.
In the professional world, there are always individuals who want to go around the system. They do not care about your integrity or professionalism, but want to get their projects completed as soon as possible.
In addition, I set the parameters of safety around me every day to stop the negative words and actions launched by Satan to throw me off course. This is similar to the firewall that computer programmers use to protect servers and computers against viruses and malware. Such as, “In the name of Jesus Christ, I set a firewall of defense around me to thwart the words of the enemy. Let the negative and ungodly actions of others have no effect on my spirit.”
These are short prayers I have used before I enter my place of business, meetings or even family gatherings. Yes, they have proven very effective. I have also prayed these prayers in the midst of meetings and watched the hand of God move on my behalf.
We must recognize the favor and authority that God has given us through Jesus Christ. Being instant in prayer makes you an efficient and high-achieving person. You are able to work with difficult people while maintaining your peace, sanity and integrity.
An example of a defensive instant prayer is one that you must use to change the course of action right at that second. You can pray within your mind a prayer to stop Satan in his tracks. In my profession as an urban planner, I must work with multiple disciplines and professionals to complete projects. I must interact with administrative assistants, lawyers, architects, engineers, and elected officials, etc.
On occasion, I have had to pray that a person being difficult and rude provide me with the information that I needed. I have also had to take authority—while maintaining my composure—when individuals were rude and unprofessional toward me. One of the prayers included the following:
“I pray in Jesus’s name that my adversary become my advocate and provide me with the information that I need right now.” I had to adjust my spirit and look to Christ for help. Sometimes you have to pray for your enemies, as well because people are dealing with their own problems and do not want to be bothered with your requests at that moment.
We must be discerning and understand how to pray so that we can meet our spiritual and professional objectives. Usually I pray, “Lord strengthen their hearts and heal their spirits this very moment. Touch their hearts and give them the peace they need.” I have prayed for disgruntled people over the phone without them realizing it, and their moods shifted. Before the end of the phone call, not only did I obtain the information I needed, but they told me to have a nice day.